Ahh…Romance

Romance, relationships and life do not always seem to fall hand in hand. I have friends that have been married for years and they are miserable.

Right after our first anniversary the romance disappeared,” friend married six years.

OUCH! Not a good sign. The first year should be magical, but the second should not be cold soup!  By six, you should not be sleeping in separate beds! I have friends who have been in relationships longer than some of my married friends. Not a lot of romance there either I notice.

We stay together because we’re used to it. We’re very good friends though,” unmarried friend in a relationship for nine years.

DOUBLE OUCH!! Tomorrow is one of my closest friends twelve year wedding anniversary. I asked what she and her husband were doing and her answer was “Nothing.” Twelve years is a long time to share a life with someone. Twelve years is amazing compared to most marriages of this era that maybe last a year or two. This really bugged me! Of course, me being me, I had to butt in. I attempted to convince my friend a nice romantic evening was in order.

Take the day off. You have plenty of sick time. Give yourself a facial, paint your nails, cook a nice supper, and surprise him with a romantic evening at home. Heck… I’ll even babysit!” I told her.

Her answer, “What’s the point?”

Let me tell you I nearly came unglued! What is the point? Romance is the point. The point is keeping the spark in your relationship alive! After all of my rantings I could not get my friend to see my point and gave up.

Sitting here tonight, I am still bothered by this. If we all took a moment to think of the simple things in life, the romantic moments that are easy our relationships could be beautiful once more. Of course, in single life romance is few and far between as well. Kisses that make your toes tingle have disappeared. Instead, you have a man who wants to lick your chin or comes at you with an open mouth. (Seriously, that happened to me once. He asked if he could kiss me goodnight and then came at me mouth gaping like a fish seeing a lure! YUCK!) Holding hands has been replaced by text messaging. Flowers at your doorstep, yep gone too, it has been replaced by an e-mail asking you to meet them at a bar. Where is it all going? More important, why is it gone?

(No, I am not going to rant… I promise.)

Instead, I am going to give a message of hope. A friend of mine, who has been single for way too long, met someone. After hearing her description of him, I decided either he was a robot or she was a liar. I met him today. Ladies, he is a REAL gentleman! He opens doors, pulls out chairs, says ‘yes please’ and ‘no thank you’, he lights cigarettes for women!! Holy cow… If there was a man to clone, it is this guy.

Just when I am ready to give up on the male species, give up on romance… I am forced to take a step back once more. I still wonder why romance is disappearing, why it is being hidden. Yet, I continue to blame my own gender for allowing it to no longer be of importance.

Ladies… There are good men out there… Romantic ones!! It is time to step up! It is time we take romance back.

Good luck and remember romance can be achieved (We may have to demand it though)

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