Feb 09 2009
The Secret Armor Of Women
Say the word armor. Now what comes to mind? The cliché “Knight in Shining Armor” more than likely. Visions of good looking men on horseback, bodies clad in chainmail and gleaming metal breastplates, helmets that only give a small glimpse of their eyes. Which according to movies and novels they were HOT! The kind of man who would rip your clothes off and take you right then and there! Moving on before I get hot and bothered. Yes, this is the most typical form of armor that we see at things like renaissance fairs and in movies. Since we do not live in the Elizabethan era this is not the type of armor I am talking about. There is a powerful type of armor it is not worn by men, but women. A very important armor indeed…
Lingerie!
Now you may ask me what lace, satin, and silk may have to do with armor normally created of metal. And of course, I have the answer. Would I have launched into this if I did not have an explanation? Lingerie is the most powerful armor a woman has available to them. If this is not something you have learned yet, be prepared for an enlightening reading experience. By the time you are done with this blog I guarantee you will look at your underpants drawer a little different. (Yes, I say underpants. No I am not 90, but that is what I call them, deal with it.)
Moving on to a brief illumination. We all have the certain outfit, a certain pair of shoes or underpants that make us feel good. Good is a very general word but the only way I can describe the experience. I have a pair of shoes that are only taken out of the box on days that I am truly miserable. I slip ‘em on and I feel good. Now whether it is an outfit, footwear, or underpants that give you this comforting feeling, this is your armor so to speak. It protects you from your mind-set, your potential bad day. I learned at a very young age that when you look good on the outside it starts to change your inner feelings.
Now on to lingerie and my theory:
As women we have an assortment of things in our lingerie drawer or drawers depending on how addicted you are to the stuff, as I am. You have your practical panties, your ‘time of the month’ panties, the ones that make your man wild in the bedroom. However, what about the ones which prepares you for the day ahead?
Like my favorite shoes that can change my mood once they are on my feet, I have certain lingerie that I consider my battle gear. No one sees them (unless I want them to! HA!!) nevertheless, I know they are there. It is my own little secret a feeling that gets me through the day. A thought of ‘Yes, I may be wearing jeans and a sweater but if you knew what I had on underneath… you’d never look at me the same.’ It is a strange and wonderful feeling of empowerment actually. No matter what the day may bring, you have your silken and lace suit of armor. Unlike the renaissance days, the armor is hidden.
When I have breached this subject with other women in the past some of them know exactly what I am talking about others look at me as if I am from outer space. The typical question is “How can what you are wearing under your clothes make a difference in your day?”
Here is the answer:
When we leave the house people see what we look like, duh. We might be in a suit, jeans and a t-shirt, a pretty dress, or even sweats but that is not what counts in the long run. However, if you have something unbelievable under said clothes you have not only a little lingerie secret but also a shield of sorts. Bad days happen as does traffic or a crabby co-worker or loved one we cannot control others. Nevertheless, with your secret armor you are reminded of softer, easier things to relieve you. (Honestly, I am not crazy, go with it, and give me a chance to prove my points… keep reading.)
How many times in preparation for the day we are about to incur have we caught a glimpse of ourselves in the mirror wearing nothing but a good-looking bra and panty set and smiled. That is the exact idea of ‘Lingerie Armor’! It is a feeling of attractiveness, something that can make us glow despite the nonsense going on around us. Just last week I knew the day ahead of me was going to be ugly, lots of stress, bill paying and balancing a check book that I never can seem to make match the bank statement. No, I was not leaving the house it would be a day of track pants and a sweatshirt but I needed my armor nonetheless. In my lingerie drawer, I found exactly what I needed. Black satin trimmed in white lace! I donned my expensive bra and panty set then dressed in my outfit for the day. Guess what? The day was not as bad as it could have been. The thoughts of my perfect lingerie ensemble made me think of when the day was over stretching out in bed with a good book and an even better glass of wine. See my reminder of softer, easier things really is accurate!
Now, there is different level of ‘Lingerie Armor’ that most of us already participate in but might be missing a subtle edge. There is the ever important, absolute must, Date Night Lingerie!
If you are in a relationship, married or not, you know what I am talking about. There is something scandalous under your outfit intended for whomever you are with to enjoy later at some point later in the day or evening. You know it, he or she knows it, and is looking forward to seeing it and you sure as heck cannot wait for them to set eyes on what you have got going on!
HOWEVER, even if there will be no one later to enjoy what you are wearing underneath it is still so very important to have it on. It goes back to my idea of empowerment. It may be a first date, a set-up, or even the dreaded blind date, but it really does not matter. YOU need to feel good about yourself. The perfect underpants can give you the feeling of ultimate female dominance. In our dating lives, you need a small boost of self-confidence and I promise you lingerie can give you that feeling.
Personal history time.
Years ago, I had a terrible crush on someone I worked with. You could have cut the sexual tension with a knife when we were together. There was a very strict no dating co-workers policy in place and let me tell you the day he quit, it was ON! We set up a date the same night he handed in his resignation! I was nervous as a kid on the first day of school. Call me old fashioned but I have a very strict rule of not sleeping with someone on the first date but I needed a little boost so to speak to get me through the date and get a handle on my nerves. Out of the drawer came one of the most expensive and sensual lingerie sets I owned. No, he was not going to see it that night (honestly, he did not that night but a few dates later he did) but I felt sexy and empowered. When he picked me up, I felt the nerves disappear and a sense of sexual control take over.
Personal history over (before I blush recollecting those dates. WOW!)
Women are normally controlled over by our emotions and our self-esteem. Nothing can give a helping hand to those feelings like lingerie. We have our secret armor, our little secret so to speak, to uplift the day and our self-confidence. If someone gets a sneak peek or an intentional show, it only adds to our allure. When you feel good about yourself there really are no limits to what you can accomplish.
Therefore, the next time you know there is a bad day ahead, grab something wonderful from your lingerie cache remembering underneath and beyond it all you are a sexy self-confident woman. The next time you are nervous over a date slip into a little number that will not only give you a feeling of sexual empowerment but a comforting feeling of glamour.
Use your ‘lingerie armor’ to your advantage. Whatever the situation might be you will find not only am I right but you will feel different. When you feel good about yourself, others will see you in a different light as well.
Give it a try… and let me know how it works out!
Just a note. All references to uplifting, brief and boost were placed for proper underpants humor!
