Ahh…Romance

It’s easy to become lost contemplating the idea’s of romance, or what we as women might think to be romantic. The conundrum of “What will turn him on?” seems ever present especially in a new relationship. Even in a long term relationship or marriage a woman might become concerned about keeping the bedroom fire alive.  So I decided to take things a step further and find out what men find as not only romantic but the total turn on. Let me tell you I didn’t get what I expected at all! (Except from my brother who couldn’t seem to get past the chest area.) Men surprisingly are turned on by things I never would have thought about. Even stranger where most women like candles, flowers and bubble baths guys could care less really. After these conversations I am beginning to wonder if romance really isn’t dying away but mutated. We possibly are stuck on the romance highway of familiarity where men are on the surface street of new and unexpected.

The three men I spoke with are all from completely different walks of life from artists to blue collar workers. I really wanted range on this one since it’s giving us as women a glimpse into their minds. (The male mentality was not as scary as I presumed it might be) Each man was asked the same two questions. Let’s get down to it then.  Shockingly most of them shared many of the same answers.

Question 1:        What about a woman can turn you on without touching her? Think with your other                                       senses leaving touch and taste out.

Man 1, Married 10 years together 12

Smells definitely, soft smells like lotion or perfume, nothing heavy just a woman that smells like one. Watching a woman get dressed, you see each other naked when you’re having sex but there’s nothing like seeing her get ready for the day. It kind of gives you something to think about for later. Shoes too, shoes are a must they tell you what kind of mood she’s in every time. My wife can get all dressed up and look beautiful but sometimes she’ll come in wearing tight cotton track pants, her hair in a pony tail and a ball cap and I want to drag her back to the bedroom.

Man 2, Married 12 years together 16 

Facial expressions, a sensual glance, or a smile gets me going. Smell is really important I like perfume. The librarian look works for me too, more of a natural appearance. I’m not into lingerie really. When I take my wife out to dinner and she’s all dressed up I tell her don’t change when we get home. 

Man 3, Single

Her face I notice the fast first every time. A flirty smile followed up by her eyes meeting mine for a second then looking away, and you see her smile get a little bigger. Tight knee length skirts with almost sheer stockings underneath. My favorite is a girl with a husky voice, something about it turns me on. Not like raspy smokers voice but just a little deeper than average. It makes me think about what she would sound like whispering to me.  I’m not into perfume its overkill. A girl that smells like lotion or like she just stepped out of the bath is great. 

Question 2:        What do you find the most romantic in the bedroom to build up to the big moment?

Man 1:

Any kind of hosiery, except pantyhose, and high heels! I really like when my wife gets all glammed up. By that I mean dark eye make-up, lipstick, lingerie, with stockings and high heels. Sometimes she’ll get all ready and then ask me to come help her change the bed sheets or something and there she is all done up and waiting for me. Nothing beats that really. I really like lingerie it doesn’t have to be fancy but it’s the idea of seeing but not seeing it all yet.  Touching turns me on too, something as simple as brushing against each other.

Man 2:

I like a lady in the living room and a whore in the bedroom. Simple enough, pretty self explanatory. Ambient light, nice shoes all that’s fine when the doors shut there doesn’t need to be much else. There’s no need for the kind of heart shaped panties or crazy undergarments that look uncomfortable. No woman actually wears that stuff under their clothes anyway so what’s the point? I’m not big on fancy lingerie I simple and elegant.

Man 3:

A woman wearing one of my button up shirts and a pair of those little boy leg shorts, I see that and I’m done! I don’t like thongs those boy short things are great. A woman’s bottom looks perfect and they cover up enough so you start to think about what’s underneath. I’m not into all of that lacy lingerie stuff women like so much. Finding her wearing nothing but a pair of thigh high stockings and high heels is good too. Music is a must, it sets the rhythm for what’s about to happen. Fast music you know you’re in for a fun time, slow music normally means the night will be laid-back and unhurried. 

So now I find myself curious if you the readers are as shocked by what we learned as I am. Perfume? Sensual looks and smiles? Boy leg shorts instead of thongs? Soft music?!?!? Maybe we have it all wrong and need to alter our bedroom ideas. Most of us spend more money than we should on fancy lingerie and candles when maybe we should be thinking along the lines of subtle perfumes and undergarments that hide a little more. Who knew men enjoy the natural look nearly as much as the glamorous appearances in the bedroom? If I could find more men actually willing to discuss the topic I’m sure there would many more surprises along the way!

Are you as stunned as I am?

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