Ahh…Romance

In my quest for romance I’ve found most women allow themselves to go without my favorite subject because they don’t feel good about themselves. A negative self esteem is eating at most of us. (I say us because I have my own issues) After much consideration I believe I’ve found the root of it. The Scale!

Since I was a child I have watched the world contemplate, “What is the perfect weight for women?” I have seen this so called perfect weight change over what feels like a million times in my life. There are oodles of commercials on television for diet supplements, diet programs, diet drinks, and diet everything else you can possibly thing of. I have also seen some of the magic diet drugs be recalled, kill people, and news tid-bits about ones which cause long term side effects. I have also seen all of the “natural” diet programs. (Heck I’ve even tried a few myself.)

It’s natural what damage can it do right?

The damage if not caused to our bodies is normally to our mind. We can’t feel good about ourselves if our mind is filled with negativity.

When you stand in line at the grocery store you see all of the magazines covered with movie stars, models and musicians. Most of them are tiny little things, that wear size zeros. But, the average woman standing in line at the grocery store is a size twelve or up. In my opinion it’s getting out of hand.

I cannot say that I do not worry about my weight. If I said I didn’t I would be a liar. I am human. I am a woman. I worry about my weight.

But… recently I decided I won’t let it rule my world. Instead I’ve tried to find a happy weight and get on with my life. I have found a size that may not be perfect to the standards of most, but it’s perfect to me. I can still eat hamburgers when I choose, splurge and order pizza or have a peanut butter and jelly sandwich at midnight.

 I’m finally comfortable. The day I admitted that something happened, I felt pretty again.

That brings me to the biggest questions for women of today.

Why must we be what others want us to be? Why can’t we just all be comfortable?

Women are women; we are supposed to be soft and female looking. Not skeletal and look like the walking dead. In the 16^th century nude women were painted with rolls of flesh, and dimpled skin. Fat was once beautiful, and now it is a social disgrace.

I’ve talked about this with many women, most answer the same way. “I want to look good.” 

 But who are we looking good for? I understand there are the times when you are single and are trying to catch the eye of a man. But why can’t we be ourselves and still catch them? 

Others tell me it if for their health. Okay this one I can understand. Fine you want to be healthy, you want a long life, and not have issues along the way. But then why not do it right? Most women that I know that say they diet to be healthy are taking diet pills, going to programs, or have fallen into place with the new diet idea on the market. What happened to eating healthy, going for a walk or taking care of yourself.

And finally… why do we let others opinions of our physical look eat at our self confidence. Most times we diet is because we want to be beautiful.

But I ask you… What is more beautiful than a self confident woman?

No man wants to date a neurotic woman, believe me I know this all too well. Until we allow ourselves to see who we really are not what he might see we’re taking steps backward. Accept yourself and someone out there will too if they don’t…. Who needs ‘em?

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